Shaenas Blog

Monday, December 05, 2005

My take on dating...

So this is my story... (if you don't want to read it all I suggest just reading the last couple of paragraphs... but to get the whole picture read the whole thing.)

About six months ago I made a decison not to date. I had just gotten out of a long distance relationship that ended horribly and I wanted to dedicate my life to God. I was about to start college and I had just started working with Jr Highers at church when I was asked to go to Jr's camp. Not only did I fall head over heals in love with all the girls that I got to spend time with but I fell head over heals for a really great God loving guy who just happened to be moving to Arizona. Yea, that put a bit of a damper on our relationship... but anyway I thought I was gonna marry this guy, and everyone knew about it!

So this is where my point of writing this comes in... When we first got together Craig had everything that I wanted and I thought God wanted for me too. I prayed about us getting together and so did he. Every moment and conversation we had was awsome in so many ways... it was God honoring, funny, we enjoyed each others company, and he still liked me even after I fell down a hill and ran into two trees... after camp we spent everyday together we prayed, read out bibles, met each others family, and I even let him meet my incredibly scary father. I thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together...

So what happened... when Craig moved we didn't get to talk as much, and it sucked not being able to spend time with him. That added a lot of tension and we stoped making time for each other. I started working more and he started working way more. We didn't have time to pray together or read our bibles, or even discuss how our relationships with God were... I made sure to let him know that God was before him, and he felt the same way about God being before me. We told each other we would make more time because we weren't how we once were and it just wasn't right. A few days passed and nothing changed... for about two weeks our talking had become texting and we broke up... how? yes... by texting.

How I felt... I had this Stellar Kart song stuck in my head about God never changing and right before we broke up I had read 1 John 3... that chapter is all about how God loves us and always will ( I highly suggest reading it!) At that moment I felt God come over me and I knew that Craig and I had to break up. Not because we no longer cared about each other... because we didn't have a God honoring relationship anymore...

The other reason... I'm 18 and was talking about marraige... don't get me wrong I want to be married young and I want to have kids young... but neither of us were at the place where we should be talking about that... we're both freshmen in college and we both work a lot. We grew up completely differently which makes it hard for us to understand where exactly the other one is at.

Ok I'm almost done... I titled this "My take on dating" because I've made a decision that should be considered by all of you... I'm not going to date for a long time... and when I do it's going to be someone who I have been friends with for a few years and I know every amazing and obnoxious thing about them... this person is going to be involved in ministry and loves God more than anything... Everytime he looks at me or hears my voice he is going to praise God for me, and everything he says to me has to be real. I would go into how I want them to look but I don't want to be too picky...

Dating when your young brings good lessons, but you don't want to give your heart away too many times before your with your husband... I dont know about you, but when I get married my husband is going to be spoiled and is never going to feel like I don't love him enough...

So until I meet that guy that God has so gracefully blessed me with the only man for me is Jesus Christ...not only does he love me for who I am, he died for me... what greater man is there?

My thoughts on Chrismas, Thanksgiving, ... and a challange!

Ok, so I'm super oppinonated today... I'm not sure which category this would go in so it doesn't have one!As everyone knows I love food, I love family, and I have a lot to give thanks for!So I'm sitting in my CADD class right now not doing my work, and I started thinking about Thanksgiving and what my plans are. I guess Thanksgiving is at my place this year... actually it always has been. Before every Thanksgiving we always go around our dining room table and discuss what we are thankful for, I'm sure most families do this. It always takes people a few seconds to think of something that they are thankful for, and yea, sometimes me too. I've decided that holidays are starting to bug me... but why? It makes me sad that families choose one day out of the year to get together and act happy, discussing how greatful they are for having each other... then the next day one of those family members goes to another family member talking crap about their drunken relative... hmm... so sweet isn't it? So why is it that out of 365 days we give thanks with our families once? I strongly feel that Americans don't have tradition besides the morning run to Starbucks... Has Thanksgiving become an obligation? Is it an obligation to show love and give thanks while devouring delicious food? Oh don't forget it's only once a year!Christmas... the celebration of Christs birth... first of all why don't we celebrate Christs death? We celebrate his rebirth right? I don't know if you all have heard the saying "Praise God" before, it's in the bible... you can look it up! I would apprecieate it if one person can give me a reason to exchange gifts with each other on this day? Shouldn't we be giving gifts to God? It is his birthday... instead we exchange superficial gifts that for the most part aren't God honoring, not that they are bad all of the time either. So here are my thoughts... if someday I am so blessed with a God honoring husband and children, we will give thanks everynight before dinner... not just prayer but praise! And for Christmas... I'm taking my kids to give a not so privlaged family a gift or many... isn't that much more God honoring, and even rewarding? So heres my challange for you... when your parents or gaurdians ask you what you want for Christmas, ask them for necessary items and a few toys that you can drop on the neighbors porch, or a charity, or if you just get money give it to a local church, or charity. Make this Thanksgiving and Christmas what they are supposed to be all about. God will always give you the greatest gift of all... his love... so show him some.

Just Be Real!

I've finally decided what bugs me more than anything. When people are fake. It stinks when you go to talk to someone and all of the sudden they are completely different than they used to be. What is that all about? I understand what it's like to be fake because I was for a while. I don't see the point in trying to impress somebody who you want to be all buddy buddy with, and by doing so you hurt a friend who you never had to impress for them to like you. Don't you get that the person who your trying to impress will never like you if you don't be yourself. People like honesty no matter how big of unhonest jerks they really are.

Be real, stand out, and stop trying to be someone who your not... believe it or not, when that happens your gonna be that person who someone wants to be friends with then who are you gonna be?